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Why did relationships last longer in ancient times, what are the reasons for this change?


Today our family consists of 2-4 people and we are not able to manage even that. In such a situation, we are hiring maids to do the household work, baby sitters to take care of the children and servants to do the rest of the household work. Despite all this, problems and discord continue to occur in the house. Besides, the number of early endings of relationships has also increased these days.

But if you think about it then this thought would come to your mind that where we are not seeing such small families, in earlier times 20 to 25 or even more people would live together with love and without any problem. How did they live? Let us tell you the reasons for such big changes.

Joint family was beneficial

Today most of the boys and girls have started living separately from the family after marriage. One reason for this could be to avoid privacy, job or other responsibilities, but this was not the case earlier. No matter how many sons or daughters-in-law came into the family, no one talked about separation from the house.

The main reason for this is that when we live in a big family, responsibilities are automatically divided and if you have to go somewhere, then children can be left carefree with uncles, aunts, grandparents or paternal uncles.

there is no one to explain

there is no one to explain

In earlier times, there were so many members in the family that if a married couple fought in the house or brothers fought among themselves, the elders of the house would resolve the issue and resolve the differences.

But today the situation has become such that children get separated from the family in order to live alone. After that, even if the elders of the family want to explain something, they are ignored. Not listening to your elders is also one of the reasons for poor relationships these days.

divorce has become common

divorce has become common

If you have heard from your parents or aunts about their times, then this mention must have come up at some point or the other. In their times, there was no such thing as divorce, once a marriage took place, it had to be consummated. No matter how much fight there was between husband and wife, they were not given divorce to each other.

But today the situation has become such that when a small fight occurs, instead of resolving it, the spark of debate is fanned and then the matter comes to the point of ending the relationship. It is right to raise voice and give divorce in case of domestic violence, mental harassment and coercion but it is wrong to end the relationship for baseless reasons.

patience and love

patience and love

Today, where fights start over small things like not feeding one’s desired food, not taking one for a trip or not taking one for shopping, this did not happen in earlier times. Both men and women had patience and love for each other. Earlier, people used to not sit angry and sulk on any small thing, rather they used to forget such things and try to strengthen the relationship, but today’s people are very lacking in patience.

be happy with less

be happy with less

Everyone wants that I should have a big house, a car, children should study in private schools and we should travel around the country and abroad. A relationship with so many desires and wishes can work only if the people associated with it have high income or have high savings. There is also a part of show off in this.

Like coming to mind that if the neighbors have a car then we should also take it or if they are going to visit Shimla with the whole family then we should also go etc. But earlier it was not like this, in those times, people used to be happy with what we have or have got and used to give love openly.

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