There is a lot of debate between Abhishek and me- Aishwarya Rai, even science respects the reason for this

What did Aishwarya say?

Shortly after the wedding, in an interview given to Filmfare, Aishwarya had revealed about married life that ‘Both of us have very strong personalities and we believe in expressing our opinions. We are still learning the difference between arguing and discussing among ourselves.

We both have strong genes, which makes our personalities naturally strong. There is a very fine line between debate and discussion, we are currently trying to find out what this line is between us.

We discuss a lot, and to put it politely, we argue.’ (Photo Credit: Instagram@bachchan)

Helps in understanding yourself

Although arguing is a bad thing, but it is beneficial for the couple and experts also agree to this. Kansas City Relationship Institute According to, arguing helps a person understand himself and know what he/she wants from his/her relationship.

What the couple likes and dislikes, what are the things that are needed to make the relationship work, what are the things that are bothersome and the reason behind it, etc. are all revealed during the conversation that takes place during the argument.

Running away from arguments and damaging relationships

Couples often avoid talking about certain topics or arguing with each other because they feel it will have a negative impact on the relationship.

However, a study by John P. Coghlin Study It was revealed that running away from discussing a topic actually makes the situation worse. According to the study, there is a direct connection between running away from the topic of debate and the feeling of dissatisfaction in the relationship.

Look at the debate as an opportunity

The way Aishwarya said in her interview that she and Abhishek are trying to understand each other’s limits and relationship through arguments, every couple should do the same.

This will improve your mutual understanding so much that your bond will remain strong in every situation. And it won’t be wrong to say that perhaps the argumentative approach is the reason why despite all the rumours of sourness in their relationship, the sense of respect between Abhishek and Aishwarya still seems to be intact. (Photo courtesy: Yogen Shah)

Keep these things in mind during the debate

• Do not use words in anger that may make you feel insulted.
• Keep the timing in mind. For example, if the person is already angry, wait for him/her to calm down and then discuss the issue.
• Stay focused on the topic of the debate. Do not make the situation worse by mentioning small or big things here and there.
• Keep it in mind that you are arguing to resolve things and not to make them worse.
• If the argument between you two starts getting more aggressive, take a break and talk about it again only after you calm down.