When Saba Azad, Anushka and Deepika were judged on the basis of their partners, women’s careers are not dependent on anyone

Expressing surprise, Saba wrote that a woman being in a relationship with a successful man does not mean that her own identity, work, career are not important. But what to do Saba, this patriarchal thinking is the harsh reality of our society. In a society where for a long time a woman has been only a father’s daughter, a husband’s wife and a son’s mother, it is still not easy to accept that these are today’s women, their identity and profession are not dependent on their husband or partner.

My partner does not decide my existence

Saba, who has not been getting any voice over work for the last two years after dating Hrithik, expressed her grief and wrote, ‘It is very unfortunate that even today we are living in the same dark age, where we assume that if a woman is in a relationship with a successful man, then she does not need to earn her own bread or pay her own bills. She does not need to be proud of her work or take care of herself and her family. What kind of archaic mindset is this?’ Saba also taught such backward-thinking people that wake up. Times have changed, when two strong, self-reliant people get into a relationship, they do not need to give up their identity, life and career. They maintain their personality but the world does not understand this? Especially in the case of women. For them, a woman’s existence cannot be separate from a man. They think that a man is the head, so decisions related to a woman’s career are at his/her mercy. That is why women are often told, “Oh, your husband has given permission for late night shifts? he/she has given you permission to go out?” They do not realize that in a relationship, husband and wife are equals, not master and subordinate.

Making fun of Deepika-Anushka’s hard work

Not only this, it is the nature of the world to underestimate a woman in a relationship, even if she is more capable or successful than her husband or partner. Even successful actresses like Deepika Padukone and Anushka Sharma have fallen prey to this. When Deepika herself became a producer with the film ‘Chhapaak’, a male chauvinist journalist very casually said that her husband Ranveer Singh also became its producer because the family’s money was invested. On this, Deepika openly rebuked the journalist that who gave you this knowledge. This is my own money. It is my hard work. Similarly, when the news spread that Anushka Sharma, who became the youngest female producer of the industry with a successful film like ‘NH 10’, had money invested in her second film ‘Phillauri’ by her then boyfriend and now husband Virat Kohli, Anushka also wrote a long post and lashed out at those who spread such rumours.

‘They are making fun of my hard work, due to which I reached here’

Anushka wrote, ‘By making such bogus claims you are not only insulting me but also making fun of my hard work, on the basis of which I have reached here. I have the ability to make my own films. It is probably difficult for you to believe that a girl can stand on her own feet and do something meaningful in her life.’ That’s right, our male-dominated society could not digest the fact that a girl of such a young age became a producer, so they found a man’s shoulder to give the credit. Leave aside business, an uncle asked a female journalist what does your husband do? The woman said – he/she is a writer. On this the uncle immediately said – then he/she must be writing half of your news? The female journalist was stunned – Hello, I got married 5 years ago, I have been a journalist for 12 years. Why will my husband write my articles? And how did you think that he/she writes better than me? Maybe I write his/her stories but no, making fun of women’s hard work is a common thing for us. Whereas, it is important that people change their thinking and learn to respect women as individuals and appreciate their skills.