Sudha Murthy said that fighting is necessary between couples, otherwise they are not husband and wife

Second thing- if one is upset then the other stays cool

Taking her point further, Mrs. Murthy says that ‘When you fight, one person gets hurt. In such a situation, the other person should stay cool. When Murthy is angry, I will never talk and I will let him/her take out whatever he/she wants and will remain silent.’

Talking about her relationship with R Narayana Murthy, the author says smilingly, “When I am angry, he/she remains quiet. But in real life, I remain quiet most of the time. You should never be upset together because it leads to fights.”

First thing- ‘Fighting between couples is necessary’

Sudha Murthy says about the love between the couple that ‘if you are a husband and wife, then you are born to fight. You will have to accept that if you are saying that you have never fought, then you are not a husband and wife.’ Couples who follow this should also listen to the other three points, because incomplete information is harmful.

Third thing- life is a name of give and take

The third thing the writer said was that ‘Life is about give and take, as you know. There is no perfect life here, there is no perfect couple here. Some good and some bad, he/she (addressing her husband) came with some plus-minus and I came with some plus-minus. So please understand.’ If every couple understands this thing of Sudha Murthy, then every relationship can be maintained very well.

Fourth thing- husband should help his/her wife in the kitchen

Sudha Murthy said something about husbands and other men, which is very important for everyone to know. She said, ‘I want every man of this generation to help his/her wife in the kitchen. This is very important. She may be a software engineer working in an office, then she should come home and cook food and attend PTA meetings.’

‘No, you have to share your wife’s burden, only then life will be smooth. Because you live in the city and you are young, both of you have desires, but you also need to share your problems.’

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Those who like food cooked by their mother

For those husbands who like to eat food cooked by their mothers or who often keep nagging their wives about this, the author says, ‘All men normally talk about ‘my mother was a very good cook’ because she was not a working woman and used to cook all day. Here your wife is a working woman. How can you expect her to cook like your mother? This is not possible, so please understand this.’