Parents should not say these ‘words’ to the child even by mistake, his/her mind can be shattered.

say in anger, stop crying

Telling an angry baby to stop crying may seem like a quick fix but it can actually be harmful. Research published in the journal ‘Emotion’ shows that ignoring a child’s emotions can make them feel invalid and wrong. Instead, acknowledge their feelings and help them understand their own.

Say something like, “I see you’re very upset, can you tell me what’s wrong?” These words encourage the child to express himself and learn to handle emotions.

forced to apologize

Forcing a child to apologize is wrong. This may reduce the feeling of empathy in the child. Children need to understand why their actions were wrong and realize their mistake before they can sincerely apologize. Instead of demanding an immediate apology, guide them through the situation and explain why their actions were hurtful.

you are not like your brothers and sisters

It is wrong to make comparisons between your children. A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found that sibling comparisons can lead to rivalry, decreased self-esteem, and strained relationships between siblings. Every child is different, he/she has his/her own strengths and weaknesses. Focus on encouraging their individual talents and supporting their personal development.

i won’t talk to you again

Threatening to stop loving or talking can be very painful for the child. Statements like these can create anxiety and fear of abandonment. Children need to feel secure in their relationship with their parents. Instead of threatening, focus on constructive discipline.

you are perfect

It’s important to praise and encourage your children, but telling them they are perfect can create unrealistic expectations for themselves and prevent them from learning from their mistakes. Excessive praise can lead to a fixed mindset, where children believe they have certain powers.

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