Question: It has been 8 years since my marriage. I used to work in a 5 star hotel before marriage. But due to pressure from my in-laws, I had to quit my job and remained a housewife for many years. My husband is in the merchant navy and his/her salary is in lakhs but he/she used to give me only 10 thousand rupees for expenses. Now after so many years, when I somehow started working, he/she stopped giving me money.

They neither give me money for clothes nor for medicines. When I ask for it, I get the reply that you are earning so why should I give. My salary is 20 thousand rupees but still they expect me to save money. I am managing my expenses with this little money and my husband also keeps asking for something or the other. I have to spend for the people at home as well. I don’t understand what to do as my husband doesn’t understand my problem.

Not giving money for expenses even after having it, taunting about earning is really a problem. In such a situation, we have taken this question of the user. Vishal Bhardwaj, Founder and Relationship Coach, Predictions for Success I talked to him/her. he/she has told me how to deal with this problem. (All the pictures are symbolic, we keep the identity of the users in the story shared by them secret)

Explain the problem to your husband

In this problem, it is most important to explain to your husband how you use money properly. Talk to your husband honestly and tell him/her what your financial needs are. You are working for your needs, you are increasing your confidence and also growing. Apart from this, make your husband realize his/her responsibilities.

Prepare a monthly budget

It is easy to understand anything logically, so make a detailed budget, which should include every expense of your month. Now show this budget to them so that they can understand the financial constraints. Since their salary is high, they have to contribute a large part of the household expenses, explain this to them lovingly.

Convince your husband

Trust is the foundation of any relationship, even a slight decrease in trust leads to problems in the relationship. It is possible that their trust may have diminished due to some mistake of yours, that is why they are afraid of giving you money. In such a situation, you will have to increase your trust in them. You will have to assure them that you use the money according to the need.

Take help from friends and relatives

At this time, trusted family members or friends can also help you. With the help of these people, it will be easier for you to make your husband understand everything. At the same time, you should also focus on your job. Look for opportunities to grow in your career, this will not only increase your salary but will also increase your confidence.

open a joint account

If they talk to you about saving, give them the option of opening a joint account in which both of you can contribute a certain percentage of your salary. This will ensure transparency and shared responsibility for household expenses. Apart from this, planning and communication are also necessary to solve this problem.

See a counselor or lawyer

If the above advice does not work for you, then you can seek the help of a marriage counselor. Professional counseling can help both of you improve communication and provide effective ways to resolve differences. Still, if the husband refuses financial support, consult a lawyer. Know your legal rights as a wife.

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My story: Salary in lakhs but still he/she does not give a single penny for expenses, what should I do with this miserly husband?