Question: I am a married woman. Till now everything was going well in my marriage. This is also the reason why I never thought that one day I would have to see all this. In fact, my husband raised his/her hand on me, that too when our 5 year old daughter was standing there. I was shocked when all this happened. This is because I did not understand how I should react in front of my daughter.

Although both of us were angry over a very simple thing, the very next moment he/she slapped me without any hesitation. To be honest, after this action of his/her, now I want to slap him/her. But I don’t understand whether I should do all this in front of my daughter? I want to tell him/her that his/her mother is not afraid of anyone. (All pictures are indicative, we keep the identity of the users secret in the stories shared)

Expert’s answer

Shivani Mishri Sadhu, founder-psychologist and relationship coach of Sarathi Counseling Services, says that domestic violence has no place in married life. In such a situation, I want to ask you whether your husband has slapped you for the first time.

If the answer is yes, then it is possible that there has been conflict between the two of you for years. In such a situation, it is most important that you take someone’s help to solve this issue. This is because it will let you know what is going on in your husband’s mind.

talk to husband directly

There is no doubt that the matter has escalated to a great extent between you two. In such a situation, talk to your husband directly before taking any decision. During this time, ask them, ‘Would they like to live with someone who beats them?’

During this time, also make them realize that disputes between husband and wife can be resolved even by sitting. In such a situation, resorting to violence with each other is not the right way. By doing this you have weakened your relationship.

counter attack is not right

I can understand very well that at this time your mind must be filled with many emotions. The worst thing you have felt is that your husband raised his/her hand on you in front of your daughter. In such a situation, I would say that counter-attacking to make your daughter understand is not at all right. There are other better ways to convince them that you are strong. If you slap your husband, this matter will escalate a lot.

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My Story: I want to slap my husband, but will my daughter be able to tolerate it?

Expert’s answer

talk to husband directly

counter attack is not right

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