Home, office… such people sit like snakes on social media, if you want to avoid toxicity then give a befitting reply like this

Close ones target you like this, make fun of you

Richa (name changed) scored 100% marks in 10th board exams, everyone in the family was happy. A few days after the results were announced, there was a wedding at a relative’s house. Richa went with her parents to attend that function. Richa’s distant uncle Brajesh (name changed) was also present there. Richa had not met that uncle before that function. Yes, she had heard about him/her and the uncle had also heard about Richa’s 100% marks.

Brijesh was a person with toxic thinking and used to get angry at every small thing. he/she never enjoyed participating in the happiness of others. he/she immediately gave an example of his/her negative thinking. he/she called Richa to make fun of her. The first question he/she asked was how much percentage of marks did you get in the board exams? Richa said 100 percent. On this Brijesh taunted… so what? Nowadays thousands of children get marks. What is there to be angry about in this? On this Richa became sad and said that where am I flying.

Richa’s father already knew about uncle’s nature. he/she immediately smiled and said, ‘Yes, it is not a big deal, but no one in our relatives has ever achieved 100 or even 99 percent. Neither you nor your son have.’ Richa’s father further said that we should avoid talking like this to elders, let alone children. You are elder, so keep your blessings. Saying this, he/she got up from there with Richa.

This is toxicity- Uncle ji should not have spoken like this. It is not right to make such sarcastic remarks on such a brilliant performance of a child.

It is necessary to answer like this- By giving the right answer at the right time, Brajesh was warned not to make such sarcastic remarks in future or else an appropriate answer would be given.


If you do not answer then- If Richa’s father had not responded to the sarcasm, Richa would have been stressed. Whereas uncle would have made fun of some other child or some other relative.

praising one to belittle the other

HReef is a good thing, everyone likes it. But many people use praise to belittle others. Prabhash and Vivek (names changed) are real brothers. There is a difference of one year in their age, but both study in 9th standard. Both get along well. While Prabhash is good at speaking, Vivek speaks less. They have an uncle (Praveen). he/she likes Vivek more and Prabhash less.

Actually, Prabhash had once complained to his/her father (Sushil – name changed) about his/her uncle that his/her uncle does little preparation for the competition and smokes a lot of cigarettes and also roams around. Because of this Praveen was scolded. Angered by this Praveen started taunting Prabhash. he/she started calling his/her small mistakes big. Uncle deliberately started praising Vivek in front of Prabhash. he/she started praising him/her a lot even where there was no need for praise.

The only motive behind this was to break Prabhash’s confidence. Prabhash tried to complain about this to his/her father. But he/she got the reply that you also keep following Praveen. Here Vivek liked the praise he/she got from his/her uncle in the beginning, but after some time he/she started realizing that his/her uncle disliked Prabhash. Also, he/she started feeling that Prabhash has become a bit sad. he/she also indirectly told his/her uncle many times not to praise him/her so much. But his/her uncle did not listen.

Finally Vivek told the same thing to his/her father. But he/she did not take it seriously. During this time there was a parent-teacher meeting in the school. Prabhash’s class teacher told his/her parents that Prabhash has started speaking less as compared to earlier. Now he/she also answers less in the class. After this everything became clear to them.

his/her father explained to Praveen, his/her brother, that this kind of behaviour is not right and said in a strict tone that this should never happen in future, i.e. he/she strictly said NO. This time he/she did not try to avoid it. After this Praveen changed his/her nature.

Toxicity can also come like this- Toxicity can also occur due to any incident. It is important to be aware of this, especially in the family.

It is necessary to say NO- To fight toxic people and get out of their influence, sometimes it becomes very important to say strict NO, saying YES everywhere does not work.

There are such people in the office

There are many stories of negativity in the office. There are some people in the office who find negativity in everything. For example, if the job is going well, if a company fires some employees, they exaggerate the incident so much that others get scared. Simply put, they start spoiling the atmosphere. Such people also keep looking for their prey. For example: If someone’s appraisal is not good, they provoke them and turn them against their boss.

Apart from this, it is his/her nature to find faults in everything done by others. Jeevesh has been working in an organization for the last 10 years, he/she has always been average or below average in his/her work. On the other hand, when someone does good work, works hard, he/she discourages him/her by saying that nothing will happen here by working hard. Look at me, I have not been promoted till date. he/she leaves no stone unturned in creating a negative environment by saying all this. Most of the people in the office know about this nature of his/her.

This is the reason that when a new employee joins the office, within a few days he/she gets to know about Jeevesh either by himself or through the other employees of the office. After this, he/she starts maintaining a Hi, Hello relationship with Jeevesh. Yes, even if the new employee is negative, he/she gets along well with Jeevesh.

Such examples can be found in family or relatives too, these people always keep complaining about others. If they do not complain, their work will not get done. Here it is also important to understand that when that person complains about others in front of you, then it is natural that he/she will complain about you in front of others too. Distance from such people is necessary.

When there is something negative from inside- If a person is negative from within, then trying to change him/her becomes meaningless. One should interact with such people as little as possible. Otherwise, negativity spreads faster than positivity.

The limits of a relationship are important- If you are forced to stay with toxic or negative people, then you must set a time limit and a limit to your words or conversations with them. Getting into cross-examination or debate is never beneficial.

There are a lot of negative people on social media

If you want to see a long list of toxic people these days, then go to social media and be active there. Write something on any special event. After this, by looking at the comment section, you will understand how negative people have become. Ajit often keeps posting on social media influenced by a particular idea according to his/her political understanding. he/she gets a lot of comments on such posts. After this, he/she keeps trying to answer every comment.

Seeing different negative or toxic comments, he/she often gets negative. Also, he/she spends a lot of time in this. Due to this, he/she started feeling troubled. However, he/she did not realize that the reason for his/her trouble was the negativity coming from social media. his/her negative thinking also affected his/her family. he/she used to start arguments in social media style at home as well.

One day he/she met an old friend. he/she knew his/her nature. he/she directly told Ajith that you are becoming negative. Any particular reason? Then Ajith realized that something is wrong. Then his/her attention went to social media. he/she concentrated himself on social media. Now things have become much better.

Apart from this, people should also take care of WhatsApp hygiene. Actually, there are many groups on WhatsApp. Some or the other negative message keeps coming in every group. When a person reads a message, that person becomes a victim of negative thinking for that moment. Especially in family groups, negative things and complaints are very common. When this happens at least 50 times every day, then negativity will start dominating 50 times.

This is how toxicity comes- If you live with negative thoughts, it is possible that toxicity will start creeping in, like it happened with Ajit.

The help of a good, intelligent person is important- If you notice a change in your behavior or feel that there are more family disputes or relatives have started to drift away, then talk to someone who can tell you honestly about the changes in you and can explain your shortcomings.

This is how people take advantage of decency

Some people are emotional sponges, they get into everyone’s problems and become very sad themselves. But many times, due to this nature of theirs, they also become victims of others’ negative thinking. They go to help but people take advantage of them. Because of this, they feel cheated. Then they get stressed, so don’t become an emotional sponge.

Raghav’s nature is that he/she interferes in everyone’s problems. he/she becomes very sad on hearing others’ sorrows. Due to this, negative thoughts start coming in his/her mind. Such people also start spreading negativity knowingly or unknowingly. They also start talking negatively to their family members and sometimes even go into depression.

Although Raghav did not go into depression, he/she definitely suffered financial loss. Raghav helped his/her relatives by lending them money, but people considered him/her a fool. When it came to returning the money, everyone disappeared. Once Raghav’s father fell ill, he/she was in dire need of money. he/she asked for his/her money back from all those to whom he/she had lent money. Everyone refused by making excuses.

Raghav realized that he/she did wrong by helping such people. he/she could not change his/her habit completely but decided that he/she would not give more than a certain amount to anyone. That amount would be such that if it is not returned, it would not cause much trouble. Also, he/she understood that he/she cannot solve everyone’s problems. he/she can help as much as possible. This also started reducing the increasing toxicity inside him/her.

It is important to help- There is a limit to everything, beyond the limit there is an extreme and when the extreme starts affecting us and our family, then it is important to put a stop to it. It is also important to keep your emotions under control while helping others.

We are not God- It must be understood that one person cannot help every person in the world. One cannot remove everyone’s pain.

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Dr. Samir Parikh, Senior Psychiatrist
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