Don’t become a victim of the anger of your friend who has cheated you in love. Before giving any advice, know what would be right to say.

There is a very famous saying that anger from somewhere gets vented out somewhere else. Now this simply means that the man was angry because of his/her wife’s words, but then his/her friend also said something and all the anger went out on him/her. Here even a small mistake can be attributed to that friend who may have said the right thing at the wrong time. Because there has to be a right time to say everything.

Now if your friend has a fight with his/her life partner, or has been cheated in love. Then before giving advice to another friend or anyone, you will have to select the right words. Apart from this, couples should take some steps to resolve their disputes. If you also get entangled in such a matter, there is no need to take tension. Because Lokesh K is giving information after talking to the best experts of the country. Bharti

When you have a big fight with your spouse

It is often said that couples are made by God and if they have to separate then it will be decided by God only. Then it is also said that I don’t know how this happened, 30-32 qualities were found out of 36, yet fights are happening. Although fights do happen between couples, the situation of quarrels or sarcasm usually arises only when the caravan of expectations becomes a bit long. They expect from each other that the other person should understand, but they do not understand their own responsibility at all. In such a situation, heartbreak is inevitable.

When a person’s heart gets broken again and again, many times he/she imprisons himself in the wall of emotions. Such a person starts feeling low and always remains sad. In such a situation, efforts should be made to resolve mutual differences on one’s own, but if a third person is needed, then it is necessary that both have trust in that person. This person can be a relative, friend or a psychologist, clinical psychologist or psychiatrist.

What is not right to say?

• Accusing each other i.e. blame game will not help. Yes, it will definitely happen by listening seriously.
• It should never be said that do not let such a situation arise or keep avoiding it as much as possible.
• It is also not right to say that do not have too much hope. If husband or wife do not expect anything from each other, then from whom will they expect anything?
• If the issue cannot be resolved on your own, then it is wrong not to take help from anyone else, especially an expert.
• However, when the mood is bad, the negative feeling increases, in such a situation one should avoid taking any kind of talk or decision.

What is right to say or do?

• When both are calm, when both are in good mood, better results can be expected.
• It has to be said that in such a matter mutual dialogue is necessary. It is more important to listen and understand each other than to speak.
• It would be better if your partner apologizes for whatever he/she/she feels bad about and he/she/she also does the same.
• You should also tell your partner about the things that cause more trouble.
• Both of you should write down on a paper those things about each other which cause the most trouble, then give it to a third person.

When you are cheated in love or relationships

Life is not like Bollywood movies where one can dance, sing and celebrate breakup. Only those with whom it happens understand it. In such a situation, it is important to see what the other person has gone through due to someone’s betrayal. If he/she is very upset then there can be different words for this kind of situation and if that person was already ready for the betrayal of the other person and he/she is not much bothered then there can be different words for that situation.

What is not right to say?

• It should never be said that if one goes, the other will come. This may seem like a justification for cheating and may also add to the problem.
• It is possible that at that time the person is not even able to think about spending his/her life with another person. Therefore things like ‘Leave this one and grab another’ would be wrong.

What is right to say or do?

• It can be said that it is not your fault, it is a matter of relationship and ideology of two people.
• Such words give strength that whatever your decision, I stand with you and will continue to do so.

expert panel

Dr. Satyakant Trivedi, Senior Psychiatrist
Gitanjali Sharma, Marriage, Relationship Counselor
Ragini Singh, psychotherapist counselor
pooja priyamvada, Mental Health First, Ad Provider
Ankit Gupta, ‘Asir’ author and mental health advocacy