My story: My in-laws don’t let me go to my mother’s house, what should I do?

Expert’s answer

Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh, HOD of Psychology at Artemis Hospital, Gurugram, says that I understand that this behavior of your in-laws is troubling you a lot. In such a situation, first of all you should talk to your husband. I am asking to do this because it is very important to talk openly on such issues.

Express your feelings and reasons for wanting to meet your parents. Tell them why you need to go to your home. During this time, try to listen to them also. However, during this time, keep one thing in mind that this should not spoil your marriage and your relationship with each other.

try to find out the reason

As you told, whenever you talk about going to your house, he/she even calls his/her relatives so that you do not go. In such a situation, it would be best that you first try to find out the reason. Ask them if they don’t like your family members.

he/she is angry about something, due to which he/she is not sending you home. Not only this, if you feel that this situation is becoming challenging, you can involve a third party to understand each other’s perspective.

Relationship with mother-in-law should not deteriorate

There is no doubt that even if your family changes after marriage, you never leave your parents’ house. In such a situation, try to resolve this issue with great patience, kindness, humility and respect so that your relationship with your in-laws does not get spoiled.

It’s important to find a path that respects everyone’s needs and limitations. Marriage cannot work without family members. And not much time has passed since your marriage. In such a situation, it would be better if you take help from a third person.

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